-0021- Worry About Yourself!
There are those people who annoy you. There will always be those who annoy you. Your annoyance is a projection of youself, overlayed onto others. When someone is stupid and does some stupid things, you see yourself doing those things. That’s the most annoying part. It’s always you and your own self-annoyance that is really causing the annoyance of others. Don’t bother about the ones around you, worry about yourself!
Chinese have this wonderful concept:
没办法 | Trad. 沒辦法
méi bàn fǎ
There is nothing to be done
one can’t do anything about it.
Only that they have perfected the apathy so well that everything is falling apart all over the China and nobody cares. 没办法 . Wheter it is an light bulb in the elevator, temple wall crumbling down (even it is in active use) or whatever. Kind of fitting when they do cook on gutter oil and all that good stuff.
So maybe not go that far :) Keep healthy stash of fucks to give when needed, mmmkay? You don’t need a lot of them, just a few to springle out here and there, like a fairy dust. If you have too many, they will become a burdern to haul them around. Limit the number of your fucks to give to the absolute minimum. Less is definitely more in this case.
People do people things, let them be. 99.9999% of things that happen around you have none what so ever effect on your heart centered universe. These are distractions to get tangled with. Very easy to get distracted by them. And one distraction introduces oneself to another and yet another and soon there will be big party of distractions roaming into your house, eating your fridge empty, drinking all your beer and pissing on the front yard. Party party!
The more better one feels about oneself, the more one can let others not to feel good about themselves. After all it’s upto them to decide if they want to feel better about themselves or keep feeling bad … Should they choose to not feel bad, then you can be with them and give your helping hand.
And, no, all this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have empathy, quite the contrary. You care for others so much that you let them feel bad, for it might be just what is needed at that time in their lives. Don’t break yourself trying to clean up their house, while they themselves are going around littering before and after you.
Worry about yourself!
Yours drooly,
Lobotomy Patient Z